I’ve been in an emotional slump lately. I let myself get down because I see the creativeness, the intelligence, the uniqueness of other people and realize how lacking I am. I fall prey easily to the comparison game when I read an inspirational blog post, see a beautiful, well-dressed woman, hear about someone else’s thought-provoking ideas, see pictures of someone’s cute home decor or artsy designs. Then I instantly look at my own ideas, my own creativity, and wish I had what someone else has. Sound familiar?
We are never good enough for our own satisfaction. We are never content just being us, just trying to be the best version of ourselves as author and speaker, Matthew Kelly, talks about so often. We often see what others have and it’s always better than what we have.
It’s a constant, vicious cycle of accomplish and compare. We accomplish something great on our own and for a moment we are proud and satisfied with who we are and what we have done. Then we look and see what someone else is or has done. We compare that to ourselves and suddenly, we are not enough. We are not accomplished enough, smart enough, talented enough, rich enough, pretty enough and the self-pity sinks in, pulling us down into depths of inadequacy and self-loathing. Then when we work up the courage to try and be satisfied with ourselves again, the cycle starts over.
However much we try and try to be someone else, we just can’t, because we are made with identities and personalities that are all our own. We constantly rebel against ourselves yet if we aren’t ourselves, and if we can’t learn to be content with our talents, interests, and uniqueness, then we will spend our lives chasing someone that we can never be. We each try to be a person that does not exist. A person who has little bits of all the people we admire and envy, a person with the best of every trait and talent in existence.
When we can step back and see how ridiculous that is, then common sense has a chance to rein in our emotions. It would never work to have the best of everyone in each person because then we would all be a confusing jumble of each other instead of uniquely ourselves. We would no longer be unique with our own sets of strengths and weaknesses but instead, we would be identical perfect robots.
So instead of constantly rebelling against your uniqueness and accomplishments, here are a few ways to jump off the comparison train and embrace who you are: